Why women crave commitment from men: how do we stop bullshitting ourselves?
“Our ability to commit to what we genuinely want is our ability to let the man within us shine.”
Why do women crave commitment from men?
Because a man is not a man without his commitments.
The reason women crave commitment from men is because without commitment, men are not holding up their end of the bargain. Without being committed to the things he values most in his life, a man is not fully embodying his masculine energy.
Masculine energy is one of pointed direction. Let’s not even get into how obvious this is.
A man who knows where he’s going in life is present to his commitments. He is participating in life, he is riding the waves, he is interested in what he is creating, rather than being interested in finding ways to curl back up into the safety of the womb.
Without his commitments, a man has no direction.
A man who struggles to commit to a woman struggles with commitment in all other areas of his life. He is not fully committed to his work, to his journey of personal development, or to anything else that requires the kind of constant presence and participation that is implied within true commitment.
He misunderstands commitment, seeing it as sacrifice instead of as liberation. He doesn’t know that committing is the only way to let the light in on the pathway towards his victory.
Often times, men will “commit” to a relationship without actually committing to the relationship. Energetically, women feel this. We sense his lack of true presence. We sense his fear of being mirrored. We sense his unwillingness to participate fully in life, and in the vulnerable aspects of the relationship. When it comes to commitment, we always know when a man is bullshitting us.
Unfortunately, most of us have our own issues with commitment. Namely, the commitment we make to ourselves and the pursuit of our true desires. Instead of being decisive about what we really want, we begin bullshitting ourselves and deny our better judgment, which allows men to continue bullshitting their false commitment to us.
The lack of commitment we have to ourselves as women is what continues attracting men to us that also lack the ability to commit. Our ability to commit to what we genuinely want is our ability to let the man within us shine.
Only when we have embraced our own masculine energy, our own ability to commit to the vision of the ideal life (and relationship) we are creating, will we attract men who can do the same.
Neither man nor the man inside of woman can be true to himself without committing to what he wants, without compromise.
If we could all do this, we would live in a world without bullshit. Wouldn’t that be nice?
All my love,
Ines
